Divorce Information For Women

"Women in divorce often overlook valuable assets indebt. Asking an ex-husband to pay enough to allow his
the final divorce settlement."ex-wife to continue her previous life style may not be
Marriage creates economic inequality.realistic.
Consider these statistics:Other concerns for the wife
In the first year after a divorce, the woman's standardAnother concern for the wife is whether to go back to
of living often drops by 25 percent, while the husband'swork or whether to train for a better job. Typically, in
increases.the traditional marriage, the wife is either not working
Another fact: the higher the income of the family, theoutside the home, or she has a very low-paying job. A
wider the gap between partners.career counselor may be useful in testing the wife for
The reason?skills and possibilities in the job market.
Most couples still invest in the husband's career whileThe wife often gets custody of the children.
the wife's job takes second place. Even thoughThis has several effects that often are not considered.
society is changing, this pattern still holds for mostFirst, as the children get older, they really do cost more
couples. And if the marriage lasted a long time, theto maintain! They have more expensive hobbies: skiing,
wife has lost at least a decade of career growth.biking, musical instruments, computers, etc. They eat
The courts often ignore this crucial issue when dividingmore. Their clothes are more expensive. They might
marital property. Typically, divorce settlements divideneed orthodontia. Items needed for school cost much
only the tangible marital assets - the house, the car, themore than a few pencils and paper. As schools cut
furniture. For most divorcing couples, this marital estateback, parents are required to supply all the essentials.
is not very large, averaging less than $20,000.Second, having custody of the children will influence
Career Assetswhat kind of job the wife gets. It will be very difficult to
On the other hand, many courts traditionally overlookdevelop a career where, to get ahead and earn the
one major asset of a marriage - the husband's careertop salary, she will have to work nights or weekends
and career assets. These include his:or spend time traveling. So, her primary career will likely
- salaryhave to be flexible to allow her to care for the children.
- pension or retirement planA third effect of having custody of the children is the
- stock optionsemotional and psychological difficulty of dealing with
- health, life and disability insurancechildren's issues and problems on a daily basis without
- vacationsa second parent to share in this. All parents can relate
- sick payto this.
- education and trainingMany don't understand the financial issues.
- seniority and networkingMany wives have not been involved with the financial
- potential earning powerissues during the marriage and just don't know what it
Unfortunately, many courts don't recognize careerwill take to live comfortably. They don't know what all
assets as property. So, even when a wife hasthe assets are and which ones they should ask for.
worked to put a husband through law school orThey don't know if they should take one of the rental
sacrificed her interests - invested in her spouse'sproperties and become a landlord. They don't know
assets - she gets nothing in return.the effect of getting future benefits from the pension
Some courts expect equal independence from bothversus taking a cash payout today.
partners.You can take action.
Sometimes the court will award rehabilitativeWith detailed financial planning, you can solve these
maintenance to ease a spouse into the work force.and other problems. When you're trying to work out a
But the courts base these settlements on thefair settlement, remember that the court divides
assumption - often false - that both spouses can beproperty only once, but career assets continue to
equally self-sufficient. Instead, women who have spentproduce income for years.
20 or 30 years in traditional marriages find themselvesWhile you take that into account, your strategy should
out in the cold with no marketable skills and no real jobalso include such factors as earnings, inflation, division
prospects.of property, the amount and the length of maintenance,
What is a traditional marriage?and reduced standards of living. If it's clear that one
A traditional marriage is where the husband hasperson will have surplus dollars from earnings, make
worked and the wife has stayed home to care for thesure this is considered when the court is making
children. The wife has concerns about having enoughproperty settlements and maintenance arrangements.
income to live on to continue her previous standard ofThere is a lot of educating that has to be done in
living. Sometimes, this is just impossible. Many couplessome of these cases. Many attorneys bring in a
can't afford their standard of living with one household,financial expert to take part in this educating process.
let alone two, and they end up with large credit-card