| You have seen some signs to let you believe your | | | | 2. What are they doing? |
| partner is having an extramarital affair, but you don't | | | | Beside the actual extramarital affair intimacy, there |
| know any other information or clue other than your | | | | must be something else that both he and this other |
| own belief. | | | | woman have in common. Normally this is something |
| How do you find out exactly what he is doing behind | | | | that YOU don't have in common with your spouse - |
| your back...and with who is he doing it? | | | | and it becomes the affair's connection. |
| Before you go any further though, realise that who he | | | | This can be activity such as motorbike riding, sport, |
| is cheating with might not be as important as looking | | | | music, books, chess or even dancing (If they work |
| for a solution in the first place. That other woman may | | | | together than their work activity can be used as the |
| just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his | | | | connector/the thing in common). |
| escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having. | | | | 3. Where is it? |
| However, I must admit it is not up to anyone else to | | | | If you have a rough idea on what he normally enjoys |
| decide what you really need to know of this | | | | doing you will be able to guess it. There is a few rules |
| extramarital affair. So if this is for your peace of mind, | | | | associated with this including the 50 mile rule: make |
| go on and find out. | | | | sure you do it 50 mile away, and the 'dangerous is |
| 1. Who is she? | | | | safe' rule: the more dangerous it seems the safer it |
| Ok, this is something that can lead to other clues - | | | | would be (This means he will actually meet his other |
| hence I put this first. After all, once you have a clearer | | | | woman in YOUR area - or if you live with him he'll |
| suspicion on who he is having the extramarital affair | | | | meet his other woman in your place). |
| with, you have a better guess at the other points that | | | | Another place is the workplace (Somewhere around |
| follow e.g. where and when he is meeting her. | | | | his workplace). |
| So how do you find out who she is? | | | | 4. When is it? |
| First step is to list down the names of people (ladies) | | | | This relates to number 3. I am sure you wonder how |
| he has mentioned recently. The good news is that | | | | he can ever meet his other woman in YOUR place... |
| there won't be a lot, and he must have mentioned the | | | | huh? |
| name once or twice before. This is due to the fact | | | | Ok, if you live with him he sure knows your schedule - |
| normally a cheating spouse did not plan his affair - | | | | or he may have been more interested in your activity |
| hence he did not try to cover anything up right from | | | | and schedule lately. As he is very close with you, he |
| the very beginning. | | | | knows exactly which ones of your schedule would |
| Normally the person he has an affair with has | | | | likely go through versus the ones that you may cancel |
| something in common with him - at least enough to | | | | in the last minute. |
| entice his 'excitement' brain. This will make him blurt out | | | | For example, if you take a sick leave on Monday - and |
| her name subconsciously anyhow. | | | | you have been whining that you don't have enough |
| Tips: If you happened to have freaked out in the | | | | sick leave left, he knows you will be away on |
| process and he is clear that you are having this | | | | Tuesday or Wednesday. Another example: If he |
| suspicion, try to recall the name of person/woman | | | | knows you are attending your best friend's birthday |
| who he talked about just before you have this | | | | party he knows you cannot get out of it. |
| suspicion. | | | | |