Lousy boss? Counteroffer? Resign with style, grace and a letter of recommendation!

When an employee and a company part ways, it canproject that you're leading -- a month's notice may be
be similar to a relationship breaking up - nasty andmore appropriate. A new employer realizes that you
acrimonious or mutual and dignified. What is the besthave to give sufficient notice to your present
way to resign when you are leaving a job of youremployer. Even if your present employer has a policy
own volition?of asking job changers to leave immediately upon
No one likes getting "dumped." And that is exactly howgiving notice, you should still give two weeks. It's a
your boss may feel. It is a natural feeling for any bossprofessional obligation to give sufficient notice when
to feel that they have been "betrayed" by theiryou're making a change in employers.
employee. The supervisor may feel your actions are3. MAKE A GOOD LAST IMPRESSION
"treachery" by interviewing with another organizationAlthough those last few weeks on the job may not be
and accepting an offer of employment. When athe most pleasant, it is important that you continue to
manager brings you into an organization and invests hisperform your job duties in a professional manner until
time and energy in training you and watching you growthe last minute. Those days will seem interminably long
professionally; the manager may have a "maternalas you anticipate starting your new job, but it is
paternal" feeling for their "protégé."important to leave a lasting good impression with your
Many bosses may take a defensive posture and feelemployer.
that you have not given them the same level ofRemain on good terms with your co-workers as well.
commitment or opportunity that they have given toWho knows somewhere down life's road a former
you. The employer may also experience acolleague might become your new boss or end up
psychological and emotional "devastation" that mayworking with you again. It's a good rule of thumb never
create a "swirl of uncertainty that by leaving you areto take anything or anyone for granted. If you are
jeopardizing their business." However, the manager willstaying in the same industry, it is likely that you will
not communicate his personal concerns. Generally thecross paths with a number of former colleagues over
manager will cover up his immediate concerns andthe years. If you don't work directly with them, you will
persuade you into believing you have made a terriblelikely cross their paths at conferences or on
mistake in your career.professional committees. Who knows when you will
At the point of resignation, generally the manager is soneed their support!
caught up in the "total disruption" your departure will4. TRAIN YOUR REPLACEMENT
create, that they can not/will not be empathetic to yourIf your present employer wants you to train your
needs. The manager will not be "generous" in terms ofreplacement, be amenable to the idea. Make your
thinking about you and what is best for your career.replacement's transition as easy as you hope yours
Do not tell your boss, anyone you work with, anywill be on the new job. Avoid passing on company
professional where you are going. The only persongossip to your replacement or "badmouthing" your
who should know your plans is your family. Asboss and/or your co-workers. Why set someone up
Shakespeare said, "The common curse of mankind,for a negative experience by instilling the prejudices
folly and ignorance." Another favorite quote, "discretionyou have acquired. That doesn't serve anyone.
is the better part of valor." Learn by other'sKeep a professional attitude at all times, no matter
mistakes-learn by paying attention to what historyhow tense or difficult your last weeks prove to be.
teaches us.Your goal should be to leave with as much grace and
Never assume that you know exactly how anyone willdignity as possible. You want to be remembered as
or will not behave. Prudence is a wiser path.the consummate professional.
The manager will only be thinking about what is best5. STAY COOL
for his business. Based on your relationship, tenure,Outstanding employees are rare commodities. Your
level of success at the organization, the manager'sprofessional attitude and composure under arduous
focus will be how your departure will impact hiscircumstances communicate volumes about your level
business. In another section we review counteroffers,of professionalism.
why the manager may present a counter-offer, andWho knows how many times in your life you will
how you can damage or destroy your career bychange jobs. A reputation is something that you must
giving the manager the opportunity to even present awork hard to build for many reasons. A former boss
counter offer.or co-worker can just as easily become your future
The manager may feel that your resignation is aboss.
statement that communicates, "You personally and/orA recommendation by someone who knows you by
professionally do not respect him, that you have anreputation can open a coveted "door" to a new
issue with his management style, that you are morecompany as you work your way up the career ladder.
talented than he is, etc., etc., etc."Everyone has good and bad days. Practice being
There are many reasons to stay on good terms witheven tempered, and do not react to emotionally
a former employer. More importantly - it is in your bestcharged situations. Don't resign in a fit of anger. Think
interest to try very hard to not burn bridges - becausethings through. Resign like a professional.
you never know where your career will lead you.6. THE ART OF THE RESIGNATION LETTER
The way the resignation is received depends almostNever resign one job until you have a written offer
entirely on the personality of your boss and on thefrom the new employer. It is rare, but verbal offers
policies of the company. I've seen the most gracioushave been withdrawn. Additionally, it is critical the
and polite people ushered right out the door, and I'vewritten offer is consistent with the verbal offer. You
seen companies ask the employee to stick aroundshould not resign and accept a new position until your
and train his replacement.written offer reflects the verbal offer.
The best way to judge what's going to happen is theYour resignation letter should simply state the following,
look at how the manager treated other employees"I, John Doe, hereby resign my position as manager of
who resigned.ABC Company effective January 1, 2005" Sincerely,
1. LEAVE ON GOOD TERMSJohn Doe. Date the letter today.
It can be tempting to liberate pent-up hostilities andDo not thank the company in your letter - do not
frustrations you may have built up over the yearscomplain, do not recount your accomplishments. Keep
when you realize you are free from a job. But it's notyour resignation letter short and sweet - if you have
wise to do so.anything else you want to say - such as, to thank a
Transitions are important. Your future career ismentor, or share with co-workers how much you
affected not only by how professionally you tenderenjoyed working with them, etc., say it with your
your resignation but how you conduct yourselfmouth, not with a pen.
afterwards. There is a right way and a wrong way toDo not tell your employer where you are going! Under
resign. The right way transforms a job change into ano circumstances should you share that information
smart strategic career transition. The wrong way maywith your boss or anyone else in the company---until
negatively affect an otherwise promising career.you are at your new job. Remember you never know
Remember, in the highly competitive job market, a solidwhat someone will or will not do. It's rare, but the old
list of work references is often the deciding factoremployer may try to hurt the person's new job or hurt
when landing the next job.their career in some manner. It's best not to leave
2. GIVE SUFFICIENT NOTICEanything to chance!
Always give sufficient notice to your presentIt's best said by Shakespeare, "we know what we are,
employer. Two weeks is standard, although in certainbut know not what we may be." Hamlet, Act IV.
circumstances, such as completing an important