| If you are looking to achieve better relationships, you | | | | Forgiveness opens the way for positive relating. Let go |
| are not alone. Most of us encounter problems of one | | | | of wanting to get even or holding hurts and |
| kind or another in our interactions with people. | | | | resentments, as they will just make you a bitter, lonely |
| Experiencing constant anger, conflict, anxiety or | | | | person. Be gracious. Be forgiving. |
| depression may mean you are holding onto past | | | | 3. Acceptance. Rather than judging and criticising |
| memories, that are keeping you stuck in negative | | | | yourself or another person, just accept them as they |
| ways of relating. | | | | are. Peace and harmony will be the result. They may |
| The thing is that you may be unaware that this is | | | | not be able to love you the way you want to be loved, |
| creating havoc in your life. In order to enjoy better | | | | but that does not make them a bad person, it just |
| relationships, you need to be willing to apply some new | | | | means that they cannot do things your way. |
| tools to your life such as: | | | | Acceptance is the key to better relationships. |
| 1. Clearing the past. The most important thing is to | | | | 4. Develop Patience. Time is needed for things to grow |
| remember that every day affords you a brand new | | | | and blossom. You don't plant a seed and in two |
| start. That means choosing to release whatever has | | | | seconds expect it to become a tree. You water it and |
| happened in the past,in order to move forward. | | | | daily. The same with relationships; you nurture them in |
| Most of us are unaware that we are carrying | | | | order to help them grow. Every time you react |
| grievances from years gone by. We react from this | | | | negatively, you are neglecting them. Don't do so for |
| backlog of unfinished business when our buttons get | | | | long or they will simply wither and die. |
| pushed, creating more conflict and negative feeling. | | | | 5. Give to receive. There is a universal law that says in |
| If you really want to create better relationships then | | | | order to receive, you first need to give. Choose to give |
| you need to clear the rubble, so that you can see | | | | love first if you want to be loved. |
| clearly in the moment. If you find yourself reacting | | | | I know it is easy to say and hard for most of us to do, |
| negatively to people, write a grievance letter, list | | | | because our instinct is to retreat into our shell when |
| everything that is upsetting you and then burn it. Let it | | | | we feel hurt, not give more of ourselves. But, if we |
| all go and start afresh. | | | | want better relationships then we need to extend love |
| 2. Forgiveness. To achieve better relationships you | | | | at difficult times. |
| need to understand that people are always doing the | | | | If you apply the above tips, you will be well on your |
| best they know how at the time. Remember that you | | | | way to creating better relationships with everyone in |
| are also learning and making mistakes, so forgiving | | | | your life. |
| yourself and others is vital. | | | | |