Say Thank You - Gratitude When You Leave Your Job

"Thanks, man. I really appreciate it."good [X] years working here at Company X. Before I
You are quitting your job and moving to the Next Bigleave, I wanted to wish you the best of luck to you in
Thing. But on your way out, remember to "Mind youryour future endeavors. Regards, The Quitter." This
Ps and Qs." Well, primarily you'll need to mind your Qs,smacks of class and professionalism... and did you
as in "Thank Yous."mention once that you enjoyed working with them?
Being grateful for the people at work who made yourNo. You told no lies there, but you addressed their
work life hell is even more important than beingpresence and showed them respect.
grateful for the people who made your work life a3) Not thanking your direct reports. If you have any
pleasure. The art of gratitude requires that we movedirect reports, it is a good idea to thank them for their
outside of our comfort zone, thanking those who wededication to the company. They may feel nervous
enjoyed, and do something that makes us squirm athat their supervisor is leaving and they may feel
little... thanking those we did not enjoy.overwhelmed if they will be taking on some of your
Before you assume I mean writing a flowery, gushywork. Thanking them for their assistance and
note of faux praise to the Thorn In Your Sideperformance is the way to go, so you can leave them
(hereafter referred to as TIYS), don't get riled up. First,and hopefully avoid any resentful glances in the
breathe. Second, realize that often times a primarymeantime!
motivator for this grand transition you're in the middleThree Quitter "Thank You" Dos
of either began with or was exacerbated by the TIYS.1) DO write notes. E-mail will often suffice for clients
You actually have him or her (or them!) to thank for(check on your company's policy for contacting clients)
edging you toward this next chapter in your life!and TIYSs, but a handwritten note goes far in today's
We've talked about quitting with class, which includesfast-paced world. It says, "Wow, you thought of me
keeping your cool during your remaining weeks on theenough for a couple of minutes to actually write with
job. This includes being mellow and fair (notice I didn'tink!" That statement sounds tacky when it's typed out,
say "super nice") to TIYS. Like it or not, you may verybut think of how you feel when you get a birthday
well run into TIYS later in life. However, since we'vecard in the mail versus an e-card in your inbox. The
already covered burning your bridges... get ready tothank you note is extraordinarily effective at conveying
say "Thank you!" to everyone.gratitude, especially when someone was either very
How many times have you seen a co-workerfriendly or very critical in a mentoring or training role
disappear without so much as a word? You enjoyedwith you. If you feel grateful, don't be afraid to tell them
their presence and you would have liked to keep inso!
contact, but once they left, they simply disappeared.2) DO share your key personal contact information
Don't follow in their footsteps. Always say "Thank you"with potential networking colleagues. Notice this does
and "Goodbye." Done right, your exit can be a greatnot say, "Share your new business information..." If you
way to stay networked to those people who youknow someone would be good to stay in contact with,
may run across again in the future.offer up a non-business e-mail, phone, or LinkedIn
Quitter "Thank You" Faux PasFacebook address to keep in touch where
There are three quitter faux pas that you will want toappropriate. Besides, if you think this person may want
avoid when you exit.to know where you end up business-wise, this gives
1) Not thanking your boss. Your boss signed (or atyou a non-competitive platform to do so. If you aren't
least authorized) your paycheck every week. You'recomfortable giving out your personal e-mail address,
likely to run into him or her again in the future eitherstick to public networking sites which have messaging
directly or indirectly through networking and jobfunctions within them.
references. Not thanking your boss for the opportunity3) DO keep in touch. "Keep in touch. Don't forget about
can be seen as a major faux pas. Invest in a set ofus!" That is the polite thing to say when someone
nice-looking "Thank You" notes or a quality paperleaves. But if you want to tap into former friendships
stock to pen a note (not via e-mail) saying thank youand potential networking connections, keeping in touch
for the opportunity. Just like you did in your resignationis a must. If you knew someone's birthday, use that as
letter, keep it simple, professional and truthful. Deliver itan opportunity to say, "Hello!" If you know your former
in person if you are able to.company has a busy time at a certain point in the
2) Not thanking the TIYSs in your office. They willyear, drop a line to a former co-worker to say, "I know
notice when you give others notes or e-mails prior toit's probably busy over there. How are you holding up?"
your departure. Remember that people talk! As IThis keeps the ties tight and makes you look great,
mentioned before, you do not need to write a gushy,provided you're being sincere. Give it a try today with
praise-bedecked letter to your resident TIYS.a former co-worker.
However, an e-mail or short note to say, "It has been a