Take a Break, Take a Holiday

Many people are so very busy or are so concernedappreciated they may well start to develop other
at the thought of being found to be dispensable thatinterests and friendships away from the relationship.
the idea of taking time away from the office can inThey may well start to build a life where they do feel
itself be a very stressful concept. Many people do notthat they are important and valued.
use all their annual leave entitlement and self employedI have seen many clients who do not know what is
people regularly work longer hours, evenings andhappening in their childrens' lives, they do not know
weekends to try to keep their business afloat.who their friends are or what they are interested in.
These real or self inflicted pressures can result isThey find that they have nothing to talk about when
someone becoming so stressed that they virtuallythey are occasionally together. Family life carries on
become a workaholic, with all the associatedwhilst people are at work, and the message can be
symptoms and stress responses that this entails.implied that work is more important than the family.
Some examples are fear at the thought of delegatingHaving breaks together can redress the balance and
work to another person, a feeling that something elseallow family relationships to be maintained and
should or still needs to be done, guilt that something hasdeveloped.
been missed or not done well enough. These are allTaking a break and using the time away to catch up
signs of becoming a workaholic.on chores and outstanding jobs can also be a valuable
This state often ends up being counter-productive touse of time. It can be very satisfying to decorate a
an efficient work environment. People need to take aroom or tidy and plant the garden ready for the next
break to manage work related stress and keepseason. And there are many jobs that cannot be done
themselves fresh and with a balanced and healthyoutside of office hours because of the requirement to
perspective on work and the various decisions thatdeal with someone in person.
may well need to be taken. A break enables a personAs someone once said, no one ever said on their
to come back to work refreshed and with a reneweddeath bed, 'I wish that I had spent more time in the
energy and enthusiasm. It enables a new perspectiveoffice'. Taking time to remember why we work is
to be introduced by being away from the situation forimportant. Yes, earning the money to live well enough,
a while and having some different experiences duringenjoying the satisfaction of doing a good job, being
the time away from the intensity of the workchallenged, stretched and successful are all valid
environment.results from a good work life. But, keeping those areas
Taking a break away from work is important forbalanced and having the time and opportunity to
several reasons. It is important to value and nurture allmanage work related stress and enjoy the other
the different areas in our life. Spending time withareas of our lives is also important for a healthy self
friends or loved ones is important. Apart from anythingand a viable and successful home life.
else, if these people do not feel valued and