| When you have a love one that is sick, there are | | | | now dying. But it is like that the visitors think that they |
| people that gather around you and provide love and | | | | will catch the cancer, they don't say this of course but |
| support over these difficult times, they will ring, call | | | | the fact they are absent visitors now and they are not |
| around bring a meal in some cases which is | | | | ringing means that they do not know what to say. |
| appreciated. After you return from hospital visits and | | | | My friend and I decided to go for a drink, being her |
| there is any number of calls to return to give an | | | | husband's full time carer it is very rare that she can get |
| update of what is happening with the person that is | | | | away for an hour or two but they need to and should |
| sick. As you are in a robotic frame of mind as you | | | | be bullied into going out for the night to get a little bit of |
| prattle off the day and what his patient is up too etc. | | | | me time factored in from time to time. |
| People understand that the person is sick but will get | | | | Being good friends though is to be there through the |
| better, and each day they ask "how is he today?" and | | | | good and bad times and at the moment the cycle is |
| you know that they are wanting good news that he is | | | | bad. We laughed and cried and then laughed some |
| getting better. | | | | more, it was the medicine that she needed in order for |
| Sometimes this is not going to happen as is the case | | | | her to have a form of release. Her day to day life |
| with a dear close friend whose husband has terminal | | | | involves around endless hours of hospital visits and |
| cancer. This is obviously extremely sad news for my | | | | getting treatment for her husband. It means trying to |
| friend and her family but what is more sad is the way | | | | hold a job down while taking endless amount of sick |
| family and friends now react, they stop calling or | | | | leave off in order for her to care for her husband. |
| dropping around. This is probably the hardest thing for | | | | She also now has taken over all the bill paying and |
| my friend as her support has now dropped off to me | | | | protects her husband from any of the bills that comes |
| and her daughter. | | | | through the mail so he doesn't worry. So the next time |
| People get embarrassed to know what to say; | | | | you know a friend of yours that is going through this |
| obviously they can't say are they any better today | | | | living hell, be there for them to lighten their load and |
| when in fact they will never get any better as he is | | | | give her all of your support. |