The Importance of Self Care

Big week. Very big week. I had some larger than lifeand playing with my son and reading to him or drawing
meetings with some people who can actually help mewith him. To me, it means connecting with my husband
make my ultimate career dreams come true. It'sand getting to hear about his daily events that take
exciting and can be overwhelming, but I've realized theplace. It also means, connecting with my family and my
importance of one thing.friends via phone or in person. Lastly, it means that I
I need to step back and take care of myself when I'mhave prayer time, and complete quiet time where I can
busy. It's the best thing I could ever do for myself.just listen.
Take a client of mine who recently had a launch ofI find when I do these things, and take great care of
her new product. There were the parties and the fundmyself, and have a lot of time just alone or being with
raisers. There were the meetings and the pressmy close circle of friends and family, I feel more
events. There was excitement, and the fulfillment of aproductive. I'm more creative, and I'm happier. I feel
dream that she had been working on for many years.more centered, and more balanced. I lose the anxiety,
After the big event, she was sick for a month. Colds,and the stress. I can also handle more stress because
flu, congestion, aching, you name it, she had it. And asI feel stronger.
soon as she got well, she jumped on a plane and did aIt's taken me years to find the formula that works for
tour promoting her product. She ran and ran and ranme. I know immediately when I'm out of balanced. I
herself into the ground and it'll be no surprise to anyonestart losing things and my clothes pile up in my closet.
to hear, she got sick once again.My desk gets overly cluttered and my house looks
Another client I work with dealt with another stressfulmessy. I start getting a bit pudgy and my clothes feel
event which ultimately caused her illness. This lady is atight. My nails and my hair start to look worn and I don't
manager and had to cover during work for a fewfeel the inner spark that I love to share with others.
employees who were out with pregnancy and aSo like today, in the midst of my excitement, I took the
surgery. My client is completely capable and able to domorning off to spend with my dog. She needed me.
the jobs of her co workers well, but the stress got toShe had a cough. So I took her for a walk. I read my
her. She ended up caving and fell ill at the end of herbible and I wrote in my journal. I spoke with my mom a
ramped up time. She ended up missing several daysfew times and emailed and called a dear old friend. I
of work in a row as a result, which ultimately did notspent time out on my porch just reading and soaking in
help the department. As a matter of fact, it COST thethe sun shine. Later, even after work, I felt good. I
department. It slowed down the work because of thehandled some "parental stress" that is a part of a
several sick days.working mom's day such as dinner, bath time and
What these two clients had in common was that theygetting a splinter out of a screaming child's finger. I
put their work before themselves. They put the goalshandled it all with grace and ease. I felt fine that even
of their company before their own, and sacrificed overthough there was a bit of chaos around me, it didn't
and over until they made the sacrifice of their health.affect me. I was in the flow and it felt right.
They ended up having to take off a lot of time fromWhen we finally get this lesson about taking good care
work after the fact and their work probably sufferedof ourselves, we've usually already done it wrong for a
while they were there because both of them workedgood many years. I sure did. I used to live on adrenaline
while they were sick.and was a complete junky. As a result, I never felt
Putting ourselves first often sounds selfish. It soundsreally good. I was overweight and out of shape. And,
like we're self important or too good to work too hard.I'd prefer to not go back there.
Nothing can be further from the truth. If we value theSo to challenge yourself, just review for yourself what
company or our work, we'll value ourselves first. If weYOU need to do to feel good about yourself. Do you
take care of ourselves, we'll be strong for ourneed exercise? Do you need a special meal? Do you
company. If we take care of ourselves, we won't getneed to bask in the sunlight or get a massage?
sick after the busy time, or stressful times.Whatever it is, make it happen. Trade massages with
Taking care of ourselves means different things tosomeone else if you have to, but figure it out.
different people. To me, it means getting in exerciseYour body will thank you. Your mind will thank you.
several days a week and eat healthy foods. It meansAnd ultimately your life will thank you, and reward you,
getting lots of down time, to be alone and to read andjust for taking care of yourself.
write. To me, it means getting to spend time laughing