| A working path is not always smooth sailing. Often, for | | | | slightly positive and why not add a little humor to the |
| better or for worse, it is strewn with pitfalls, of | | | | situation. |
| ambushes, questions and even withdrawals to better | | | | Some possible answers |
| align oneself and restart stronger than ever. | | | | On the thorny question: What are you doing in life? |
| John reorientation | | | | Some answers such as the followings would be quite |
| John, is a 25 year old man possessing a background in | | | | appropriate for the given situation. |
| law and has the title that comes with it. He liked to | | | | What I do in life right now! |
| study and learn, and he was proud of himself. He | | | | - I am doing some researching...In fact... I am questioning |
| believed in this profession which is also his father's and | | | | my professional choice and I decided to take a period |
| favorite uncle profession. He was fortunate to quickly | | | | of time to think, study and I want to find out what I |
| find a job in a law firm two years ago. He is therefore | | | | really want to do in the future. |
| working on issues with his colleagues he meets clients | | | | - I'm quite possibly in career transition. I was doing such |
| and everyone is pleased with his work. But he | | | | work... It does not really suit me. I should have done this |
| gradually realize that he is not at all happy doing this | | | | sooner, but I thought my career choice was final. I'm |
| job, that he is different from his colleagues, and that his | | | | now exploring other avenues that could interest me. |
| motivations and his interests differ from that | | | | - I work for x years and lately, I chose to rest and |
| profession, his ambitions are somewhere else and the | | | | study my situation. I left to form clear my mind and |
| become demotivated. | | | | form new ideas for a restart facing new challenges. It |
| Stop work-reflection | | | | is helping me so much, I want to advise it to all those in |
| After discussions with a childhood friend and | | | | need of such a break. |
| consultations, John became quite certain and confident | | | | - I need to find clarity and make choices, and I find it |
| of his decision, he decided to take a few months at his | | | | difficult to perform at work 40-50 hours / week and |
| own expenses to reconsider his future and reposition | | | | find enough time and energy to question and search at |
| himself. It is therefore with great confidence that he | | | | the same time. I am fortunate for being able to offer |
| made his application for a leave without pay. They | | | | myself these conditions, so I'm taking advantage of it. |
| give him this period of reflection, he advises its clients, | | | | Choose your own reply, one that sounds good from |
| say goodbye to his colleagues and distributes his | | | | your mouth. I just wanted to suggest words, tone, an |
| record files. So far so good. Its only after a certain | | | | open mind and a positive attitude toward your situation. |
| period that everything becomes a nightmare for John. | | | | About the others |
| Indeed, alone at last, he suddenly lose all his pride and | | | | You know, your answer may be the beginning of a |
| confidence... | | | | most interesting conversation with the person who |
| John's nightmare | | | | asked you this question, or others who may join in the |
| John doesn't dare to leave his house and meet people | | | | conversation. Most people understand that it is not |
| anymore. He is single and would love to date and | | | | always easy to choose the the right professional |
| meet girls, but does not want to mention that he is not | | | | orientation. People will appreciate and admire you for |
| working to a girl who has a good career. His friends | | | | your courage and honesty. Your interlocutor would like |
| invites him to play golf, take a beer, and he does not | | | | to know more, but you do not have the heart for the |
| know what to say to them anymore to refuse their | | | | conversation. after a short reply, simply let him know |
| invitations. A neighbor he met regularly in the morning | | | | that you prefer to think about it longer and will tell him |
| and evening asked him recently what was happening | | | | more later. Change the subject like for example by |
| when he saw that he had changed his routine. He | | | | showing that you are more interested in him and his |
| stammers anything, but what he really wanted was to | | | | own line of work. And if negative individual criticizes |
| avoid that conversation and cower behind his car. He | | | | you; just remember that he may just envy your |
| apprehended a wedding this summer where the whole | | | | honesty and skillfully end the conversation. |
| family will be present. He is asking himself how to | | | | Keep your head high |
| change his live to make this period better. | | | | When you have to talk your situation, keep your head |
| From shame to pride | | | | high, and act as if you are proud and comfortable |
| Why the shame? Shame to respect oneself, to listen | | | | about your choice or about your situation. If necessary, |
| to what is happening inside, taking time for oneself, to | | | | practice in front of a mirror or with a friend. Know that |
| find clarity. Is it not preferable to assume responsibility | | | | if you are ashamed you are causing a discomfort, but |
| about one own dissatisfaction, instead of pretending | | | | if you seem proud, you attract the admiration. I speak |
| that all is well and basically be completely unhappy. | | | | of self-pride, not arrogance or complacency. You will |
| John is certainly agreeing with that, because he | | | | find that your own perception and what you release |
| choosed to live this moment of rest. The problem is | | | | create the atmosphere. So many people wish they |
| that he does not know how to talk about it. First, he | | | | could afford a short productive reflection period in their |
| must be absolutely clear with himself and recognize | | | | professional life, but can't afford to do so. They also |
| the importance of a questioning period and also realize | | | | are questioning the parallel of their jobs which they |
| that nothing is more effective than taking time off to | | | | hate and that drains their energy. You will soon find out |
| think and find solutions. First by recognizing, and by | | | | when you start talking about your choice and situation. |
| being even proud of his courage and consistency | | | | Some nice conversation about work and careers may |
| about meeting the dissatisfaction situation at work | | | | arise from discussing your situation. After all, its as |
| head on, its depositing in fact a good new starting | | | | good as talking about the rain and fine weather or the |
| foundation for a new career reorientation. Then there | | | | latest hokey score... And who knows where this may |
| are the others... Let's help them to understand and be | | | | lead? |