Terminating Employees - The Guilt Trap

Next to conducting performance evaluations,-- " I could have done more" - You hired Cynthia
terminating employees ranks as the most difficultbecause of her potential. Knowing that with coaching
activity by most managers. One of the reasons forand training she could develop into an excellent
the angst is the feeling of guilt. The other is beingprogrammer. However, your "open door" was rarely
concerned about saying something in the terminationopen as you were always so busy. Cynthia didn't
meeting which could rebound negatively on you andreceive the technical backup she needed to complete
the company.her projects. The easiest explanation - she is lazy, or
Why?incompetent, or doesn't fit the culture. Your guilt - you
-- The feeling of guilt: Somehow the idea thatcould have done more and now she is sitting across
employees are responsible for their performance andfrom you being fired for incompetence.
conduct is not universally accepted. It's the concept-- Inadequate and Inaccurate documentation:
that - we don't have the perfect work environment, orDocument, document, document: and have the
management team, or co workers and therefore theemployee sign off on your observations after a first sit
employee is not totally responsible. A type ofdown - get attention type of conference. What you
corporate kombia environment.don't commit to writing in a comprehensive, accurate,
-- Fear: Managers know when they haven't managedtimely manner can and will come back to bite you.
well. Their actions have contributed to the downwardInaccurate documentation makes the termination
slide of an employee. For example, the tendency tomeeting difficult- and can lead to legal difficulties down
"look the other way" when a potential harassmentthe road.
situation is evolving. You've heard the jokes, seen the-- What can and should be said in the termination
pictures, watched Johnny play grabs with Susie who isinterview? What you say can and will be held against
obviously offended. Now there is a serious problem -you. Be sensitive - but not self flagellating: this is no
and you have no records, no documentation, no historytime to say you are sorry. This is a time to respect the
of conferences with Johnny. The fear - you are in aemployee, maintain their dignity, and professionally
weak position, cannot defend your lack of action, anddismiss them from your employ. Apologies, inaccurate
how is the "surprised" Johnny going to react at beingstatements, recriminations, all will be remembered by
terminated?the employee and their attorney - don't go there.